What is Intrusive Thinking
The Situation you mentioned is similar to the intrusive thinking mentioned in psychology.
What is intrusive thinking? Refers to a type of recurring thoughts, appearances or impulses that are difficult to be accepted and controlled by others.
What is intrusive thinking related to? Psychologists have suggested that “dysfunctional beliefs” affect people’s evaluation of intrusive thinking and maintain this way of thinking.
Beliefs arise from a certain life experience of people, and affect each of us to understand and evaluate subjective and objective things. Dysfunctional beliefs make individuals inappropriately evaluate intrusive thinking. What are the aspects of “dysfunctional beliefs”?
1. Exaggeration of the possibility of danger, the severity of the consequences and the sense of responsibility;
2. Perfectionism and unbearable uncertainty;
3. Strong desire for control;
4. Thought-action integration
I won’t open the space here to explain the dysfunctional beliefs. Looking at the literal meaning, you can probably see something. Intrusive thinking like this comes from within the human’s psychology. One characteristic is partial autonomy Loss, that is, the more you want to control, the more you find that you cannot control it. At the same time, there is a struggle between self-control.
Cognitively, you have to understand that intrusive thinking exists widely in the crowd. You have it and others have it. It makes people feel uncomfortable, but it is part of human thinking. No one can fully understand it. It is excreted like a bowel movement. At this time, a realistic question will be raised: Are you willing to agree with and accept this intrusive thinking? When you don’t think it will cause any interference to you, it is when it has the least impact on you!
Many ideological “problems” become a problem precisely because people think it is a “problem”. In the strong desire to control it, they stubbornly retain it in their consciousness. Can’t drop.
Maybe you still want to ask how to control it? Acceptance is a long-term psychological work, and there are also strategies for dealing with intrusive thinking. One of the most effective is to tell it, in the way you can think of, such as telling acquaintances, telling friends, telling the Internet, writing it yourself, and telling it constantly to release anxiety.
Or, do nothing. When the mind breaks in, you do nothing, let it come in, and don’t sway it mentally, let it come and let it go. This is the so-called “go with the flow”.
The best way is to reinterpret your fear and anxiety about it. You don’t regard it as an annoying thing, but to like it. Through liking, you find that you spend time looking for it all day long. Appears, and even deliberately makes it, you will find that in the process of searching, it is quietly invisible.