We hate suffering, especially in those we love. However, without discomfort, the patient would not consult a doctor. The exhausted body would not rest. The criminal would not fear the law. The child would not care if he was corrected. Without the promptings of conscience, the daily dissatisfaction created by boredom and the unfulfilled desire for meaning in their lives…

Words often hide a secret within them. When we search for these secrets, the words begin to speak to us on a deeper level of understanding. The word “suffir” means “to endure” or “to hold” – from below. Suffering is making something a burden. Suffering is wanting something to be different instead of paying attention to “what is.” To suffer is to resist, to hold one’s breath, to harden oneself, to be afraid and to worry, but as soon as one pays attention, the suffering stops and the energies begin to flow.

Most people are very attached to their suffering. We do not take away the right to suffer by discussing the nature of suffering.

One of the main reasons we suffer is because we forget that at the root of all suffering is the choice to end it. But it’s not that simple, is it? In order to truly be aware of this choice, we must first discover the difference between pain and suffering. Pain exists for every sentient being, but suffering is a choice. Not suffering is not denying pain, but it is simply denying suffering and creating more suffering for others. It’s the understanding that “I have a choice.” I am free to breathe. Now what am I going to do about it? Will I continue to hold on to “my” suffering? »

To create a sense of consensus in our discussion, it is important to clarify that we are talking about psychological suffering caused by pain (regardless of the level of being of the pain, whether it is physical pain, mental pain or psychological).

Suffering begins when there is a feeling of disconnection and fragmentation. A void is felt. For some reason, this feeling makes us very uncomfortable, and instead of looking at it, we look away or distract ourselves. The link between Human and Being is lost. So we forget that we are Human Beings. We have the human side, but we also have the Being within us, consciousness. This void needs attention. He needs us to look at him as he is, without wanting to change him. This attention is love. We are not talking about personal love or love of a personality. This is all different from that. The love that comes from caring for something without wanting to change it is of a very different quality. In such attention, there is the transformation of what looks and what is observed. So can we look more carefully?

When we understand that at the heart of all pain is a teaching, it forces us to pay attention to what is happening. The subtle always alters the whole/the gross. This is the way of Nature. So can we pay attention to the subtle? Can we dig a little deeper? Can we hold a question a little longer, without seeking a conclusion, an answer, because that inevitably tramples the question? Can we breathe a little slower? Think a little slower? Can we free ourselves from the desire to find a solution to the human problem? Can we observe without the frontal brain becoming hard and over-analyzing? If we can, then pain becomes a source of teaching and not a cause of suffering. The birth of attention and knowledge of the subtle is the death of suffering. They cannot coexist.

So why are you suffering? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Ask yourself now.

Suffering often results from the actions of others. However, it has her own way of revealing to us what is in our own hearts. The capacity to love, to be merciful, to be angry, to envy and to be proud can lie dormant within us until a certain situation awakens it. The strength and weakness of the heart are discovered not when everything goes as we wish, but when the flames of suffering and temptation come to test our character. As fire is used to refine gold and silver, and coal needs time and pressure to change into diamond, the human heart reveals itself and develops by enduring the pressure and heat of time and situations. Strength of character is demonstrated not when all is well in our world, but in the presence of human pain and suffering.