How to Face Depression and Feel Better
In each of the characters, there are regrets that they can’t make it through, and when we face those anxiety and depression, how can we eliminate them?
When we know what emotions we are producing, we will subjectively feel calmer. Ideally, we learn to recognize our emotions when we are young. But sometimes for various reasons, we do not learn to recognize emotions. There is scientific evidence that using words to describe emotions can actually change the brain and reduce impulse.
Craig had a wonderful weekend with his 25-year-old daughter. When she left, he felt anxious. At first Craig didn’t know why the anxiety appeared, after all, he and her had such a wonderful weekend. But after he focused inward to see what emotions he had, he realized that he had two feelings: gratitude and joy. I think this example is good, and it can show that emotions have the power to increase anxiety. Gratitude and joy are both beautiful, but getting together sometimes becomes too excessive, which makes us inclined to anxiety, and moves us from the core emotions to the corners of suppressing emotions in the emotional change triangle. However, once Craig marked his feelings, the anxiety disappeared.
I teach all patients to mark their emotions to make themselves feel better. Just identifying and verifying emotions can help relax the body and mind. This is a big advantage of using the triangle of emotional changes.
Emotions are rooted in the body
Millions of sensory and motor neurons connect the emotional brain to all parts of the body, including the heart, lungs, stomach, skin, small intestine, large intestine, and muscles. If you take a moment to feel something, you will notice physical sensations. For example, when I am sad, I feel a sense of heaviness in my heart. I believe that anger is a kind of tightness in my chest and a burst of energy rising from the abdomen to the head; fear makes me tremble; excitement is energetic, which sometimes makes me feel stimulating, and there is a dance or high-five with people. Impulse.
The urge to fear is to run, hide, and sometimes freeze.
The impulse to anger is to fight, be aggressive, speak badly, attack, intimidate, protect yourself/others
And catalytic change.
The urge to grieve is to slow down, seek comfort and connection, and curl up.
The urge to joy is to smile, become strong, and share our joy with others.
The impulse of excitement pushes us towards the goal of excitement. This makes us want to jump, high-five with friends or teammates, or scream.
The urge to disgust is to shrink back, stay away from what we hate, or vomit.
The impulse of sexual excitement is to move towards the goal of our desire, or to seek sexual liberation.
Emotions drive action
Emotions drive us to act in the moment, and we feel that these emotions are instantaneous. Whether it is anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, or sexual excitement, core emotions prepare us for action. When a certain emotion occurs, you can understand your specific impulse by feeling your body. When we focus on emotions, impulses will show up. Every core emotion has a general impulse.
When emotions are hindered, the ability to know what kind of impulses we are producing is also hindered, leaving us undetected. Emotions and impulses tell us important information about our surrounding environment and how we respond to it. When we lose contact with emotions, we lose this precious life compass.
So the next time you feel emotionally excited, ask yourself: “What emotion do I feel now and what does it motivate me to do?” The information you find will tell you something about your emotional needs and what you desire, and then You can know how to use this information, take these needs and desires into consideration, and finally make a decision.