Contrary to what one might think, seeing each other too often at the beginning of a romantic relationship would be harmful for this one, according to several specialists. Here’s why.

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According to Scott Carroll, an American psychiatrist and author of a book of tips for a successful marriage, new couples should not visit more than twice a week during the first months of their relationship. Interviewed by Bravo TV, the doctor explains that this frequency allows “to have time to let grow feelings and allow the subconscious to work with confidence.” For this pro love relationship, it would allow to judge objectively his new relationship, taking a step back.

And he is not the only one to think so. Before him, the American doctor Seth Meyers had explained last November, in an article published on the site Psychology Today, that the golden rule to make a couple last was to see each other only once a week. Because chaining the dates would give the hasty impression of knowing the object of your affection, while it takes months, even years to really know the other intimately. He also explains that sex plays on emotions. “Frequent sex increases the urge to have sex – there is nothing wrong with that, but it’s best to have it in a trusted environment.” Because sex tends to develop in people feelings that can sometimes be artificial.

But Dr. Meyers still recognizes that if two people are made for each other, seeing each other frequently is no problem.